Weight is something I struggled with and worried about all through my pregnancy. Looking back now it's a shame that I did. No woman should stress about their weight during pregnancy. I mean don't go crazy and eat everything in sight just because you have a little person growing inside of you, but let's be real...YOU HAVE SOMETHING GROWING INSIDE OF YOU. Your body is going to grow and change. It's always a good idea to exercise when you feel good and just eat healthy nutritious meals. If you have felt or are currently feeling the pregnancy weight gain blues you're not alone!
During the 9 months I gained a total for 35 pounds. During that time I pretty much kept my normal eating habits. I had healthy meals (well at least what I considered healthy) and then I would splurge here and there. I made sure to have the right proportions. My first few doctor visits were fine. In fact, I was excited about gaining weight because that meant this little miracle inside of me was growing. The doctor mentioned I should gain about a 1/2 pound to 1 pound a week. He said he would like for me to stay on the 1/2 pound a week side. I said ok, no problem. As the months went on my weight gain climbed higher (as expected). Some months I really watched what I ate and walked daily but the scale showed otherwise.
It was time for one of my monthly doctor visits. This happened to be one of the months I had tried really hard. I got on the scale and I was pretty excited. However, the SKINNY, PETITE, nurse practitioner I saw that day said something about my weight gain. She said I was ok for now but she didn't want me to get too carried away. I went home and told my husband. I understood the nurse was just looking out for our baby and my health but NO ONE likes to be talked to about their weight gain no matter what the reason is.
The next month, I ate really good and did some exercises. One night my husband went out to get us some Dairy Queen Blizzards to treat ourselves. I could taste it on my lips as I was waiting for him to return. He walked into the door and pulled out these healthy mini 100 calorie ice cream cones. I thought WHAT? You're kidding me right? This is NOT a blizzard? He told me he thought this would be a much better option for us. Long story short, NEVER tell a pregnant lady you are getting her a blizzard and then show up with a 100 calorie ice cream cone. I know he was just looking out for me and the baby but I wanted that dang blizzard. (I LOVE YOU HONEY!)
It was that time again. My monthly doctor visit. I worked so hard and I just knew the nurse would be proud of me. I saw the same nurse practitioner. I made sure to make my appointment for early morning (everyone weighs less in the mornings, duh ), I even wore the lightest outfit and shoes I could find, and no jewelry. Crazy I know, but I was going to beat the scale! I got on and I did really good! The scale and I were on the same page this month. But do you think Miss Skinny thing said anything about how GOOD I was doing on my weight gain? NO! She didn't mention one word! So guess what I did on my way home to celebrate my success? I stopped at WAWA and got a chocolate milk shake. Yes I did! Then I had a cinnamon roll at IKEA!
After my celebration I made sure to be good the rest of the month and continue to work hard on controlling my weight gain. It was that time again for the monthly doctor visit. I saw the same nurse practitioner again. This time I got on the scale and just cried. I had gained just a little more than I had hoped and OF COURSE she mentioned something about it to me. I continued to just cry. I felt so defeated. At this point I was angry at this lady. It wasn't like I was extremely over weight. I was determined this woman had never had a Little Debbie Snack in her life. She probably doesn't even know who Little Debbie is!
Looking back now, I regret worrying so much about my weight gain. I have learned that the fact of the matter is when you are growing such a miracle inside of you, your body is going to grow and change. Before I was pregnant I saw women who were pregnant and I always thought, "Oh my, I am not going to let my face get that fat when I'm pregnant." I know that sounds awful but it's the truth. However, let me tell you something ladies. There is no "letting" when it comes to pregnancy. Your body is going to do what it wants to and mine sure as heck did. My face was FAT! My ankles were FAT! My knees were FAT! You can call it retaining water or whatever you want but they were FAT. I remember how I couldn't WAIT to see my ankles again, or be able to look down at my knees instead of having to look in the mirror to see them, and the day I did was the most glorious day ever! I jumped for joy!
Now don't get me wrong. I am not saying you should over eat, chow down on a bunch of junk food and get lazy during pregnancy. But I am saying to eat healthy portions, exercise, treat yourself, and let your body do what it needs to in order to prepare itself for delivery without judgement. Give yourself a break! You're growing a baby for Pete's Sake! I found this picture on Pinterest one day from buzzfeed.com and I think it's so perfect.
If you are trying to conceive, already pregnant, or have had your baby, don't let the scale get you down or the changes your body is experiencing upset you. Yes, your body will never be the same as it once was but neither will your heart. Growing a little miracle inside of you, having your little one closer to your heart than anyone ever will be is the most magical and most wonderful gift you could ever receive in this world. A friend of mine once told me while I was pregnant that I will never be as beautiful as I am right now and she was right. Every time I felt ugly or fat and miserable during pregnancy I remembered those words she said to me. Growing a baby inside of you is nothing but pure beauty!
The image featured above was taken by Cassidy Robinson Photography. This is one of my favorite images from our maternity session. She truly captured the beauty and joy in my heart.