Being a daycare mom is definitely a new experience for me. Ava’s first week at daycare was like a roller coaster of feelings. One day I was happy and comfortable with her daycare and the next day I was a crazy worried mom. My feelings even changed throughout the day.
Her first day went very well. Everyone at her daycare was very welcoming and told me to call anytime throughout the day if I just wanted to check on her. They were very understanding of the first day blues.
A few days later I arrived to pick her up and noticed that I didn’t see a bottle warmer. I discovered they had been warming her bottle in the microwave. In my head I went into freak out mode. I told my husband when I got home and he went back up to the daycare to express that we didn’t want them warming her bottle in the microwave. Of course being the woman that I am, I also called A LOT of my mommy friends. Some said that that was so crazy and unsafe and they couldn’t believe it. Some said that their children had bottles warmed in the microwave and they turned out just fine. We looked it up and it is unsafe. The microwave causes hot spots in the bottle that can burn her mouth. After talking it over we decided we still do not want her bottles warmed in the microwave. Now, I pack four bottles with water already in them and a little dispenser for her formula. So now she takes just a room temperature bottle.
I also noticed that they use baby powder on the babies. I know what you’re thinking. You probably used baby powder on your babies, heck my mom even used it on me, or maybe you are thinking, WHAT? Baby Powder? Oh no! After researching again I discovered that baby powder can be harmful to their lungs. So we have decided not to use it on Ava.
A few days later I noticed Ava had a blanket on her that wasn’t one I had packed. So of course I just had to make sure they didn’t use the same blanket for every child, and they don’t. It sounds like a silly question but you just never know these days.
Over the weekend I worried about whether or not I came across as rude, crazy, annoying, crunchy, or all of the above. I worried if they would treat Ava differently because of how many questions and requests I had.
When I went to drop her off Monday morning I talked with her teacher. I apologized for last week. I know I didn’t need to but I am a teacher also and I know how it is having “that” parent in your class. However, I also know that this is my baby girl, and I get it now how parents feel in my class sending their babies to me. Even though I teach 4th grade they are still someone’s child and will always be there baby. Long story short she was VERY understanding and made me feel so much better. She told me she completely understands and that she is taking care of my baby so it is important that she knows how we want her to care for her. She didn’t mind all the questions. After all, I am sure I’m not the first first-time mommy she has encountered. Our conversation made me feel so much better.
As our conversation continued I also apologized for forgetting Ava’s pacifier on Friday. I am sure it was a rough day without it. Her response? “Oh don’t worry. I have extras I keep here just incase. I make sure to sanitize them.” AHHH!! I pretended like I didn’t hear that and made sure to pack EXTRA pacifiers in her diaper bag just incase.
On my way to work that morning I told God that I finally got it and that I heard what he was saying. I spent the whole weekend worrying for NOTHING! I wasted so much time worrying. From now on I just need to trust in him. Joey and I have decided that its good to hear how others did it with their children and get suggestions, but at the end of the day we have to do what is best for OUR child.
One of my friends reached out to me after my last blog post about my first week back. She said that when she gets overwhelmed with friends, family, work, cooking, cleaning, or life in general her dad would always ask her one simple question.
How do you eat an elephant?
When you ask yourself this question in an overwhelmed state it makes life easier. I asked myself this question several times this week and it helped.
Tomorrow's question for daycare is does she get tummy time? I know I should have probably asked a lot of these questions before choosing the daycare but I didn't really think of it at the time. So for now I am sorry, but not so sorry for being a crazy, crunchy, first-time mommy.