It is crazy to think as crazy and busy motherhood could be that it could actually be lonely at times. I remember during my first maternity leave there were days where I felt so lonely. I was home all day by myself with a newborn. Of course I loved being home with her but my conversations were limited to one sided.
One day, my husband came home and I just cried. He asked me what was wrong and I just told him I felt so lonely. He was at work all day and I was at home with no one to talk to. I was sinking into a funk and knew I had to find ways to have some adult interaction.
I’m now on maternity leave with our second daughter and thankfully I don’t feel that loneliness anymore.
1.) Play a Mobile Game- Find a mobile game that you enjoy and play it with your family and friends. I love playing Words With Friends 2 with my husband. It’s a fun way for us to stay connected when we aren’t together. Not to mention it makes me feel smart when I learn a unique three letter word that gets me lots of points! I had no clue how many three letter words I didn’t know. Seriously, though it creates this fun competitive vibe between my husband and I, and we both play a word whenever we get a chance. There’s no rush or need to do it, “right then.” I’m able to play a word while I cook dinner before he gets home, or when I’m at the store during our grocery shopping.
2.) Mommy and Me Playdates - Many communities have Mommy and me groups where they often have playdates or meet ups at local parks or museums. I like these because they’re in public areas and to me more comfortable when meeting people for the first time.
3.) Stay Connected - Call your friends, text them, FaceTime them, email them. Do what you can to stay connected. Having this interaction with other ADULTS is huge.
4.) Join a Mommy and Me Yoga/Dance/Music Class - This is something I haven’t tried yet, but I just recently found a Mommy and Me Dance class that I want to try out with Ava. It’s a great way to do something you enjoy with your little and meet other moms.
5.) Plan lunch Dates- Call your friends and plan a lunch date. Don’t just say, “We need to get together sometimes.” Actually, get out a calendar and schedule a lunch date. Do it! I promise you will appreciate it later.
6.) Build a Tribe - One of the things I love most about social media is the ability to find people in your niche. Search hashtags that relate to you such as #motherhood, #newborns, #toddlermom, etc. Find women who have similar interest, follow them, connect with them on their stories or posts. I LOVE it when other moms reach out to me on social media and tell me they’re going through the same thing or just to say hello. It makes me feel like I’m not alone. I also love reaching out to other moms. It can be something as simple as a little emoji.
What are some ways you’ve found to break the loneliness of motherhood? I recently learned that one of my mommy friends is moving out of state next month and I’m totally going to see if she wants to get a game of Words With Friends going so I can feel like she’s still right here with me during my busy days of motherhood.