Journey to Minimalism Part 1: My Why

minimalismThis minimalism and decluttering journey of mine started after we had our second daughter in May 0f 2018. Great timing right? We had a newborn baby and a toddler at home, we were running on very little sleep and I wanted to declutter and minimalize our home! Crazy, I know! But this feeling of wanting to live with minimal was urgent. As days went on, minimalizing became less of a want and more of a need. 


While I was pregnant with Zoey (our youngest daughter), I noticed I spent SO MUCH TIME cleaning up our house and I hated it. It felt like I was constantly picking up toys, tidying the living room, cleaning off counters and washing endless dishes. I stressed over unloading the dishwasher, because I didn’t have room in my cabinets to store my 2443057 coffee cups and sippy cups. I had piles of folded laundry sitting on our dinning room table, because I hated trying to find a place for all the clothes.

Many times when Ava asked me to play with her I would say, “Just give mommy a few more minutes, I need to finish cleaning.” A few minutes always turned into longer.

I became tired. Tired of cleaning all the time. Tired of not having time with my husband and children. I was just tired! I wanted to spend more of my time with them and less time cleaning.


I started to realize we had so much STUFF! Just STUFF that meant nothing to me but stress. My stress and anxiety was super high and I decided something NEEDED to change!

I talked with my husband and explained to him how I felt. We watched the Minimalism documentary on Netflix together and we got on board.

TOGETHER we got on board. TOGETHER we started this journey. This is huge! Having my husband’s support and being on the same page together has helped this journey tremendously. He has helped me stick to minimalizing and reminds me of my WHY when I feel like I need to fill spaces in our home, or when I feel like I NEED to shop the Hobby Lobby clearance sale, or buy just one more thing from the Target “dollar spot”.

All this to say…that my WHY is my sanity, my anxiety, my family, my happiness. My WHY is so I can spend LESS time cleaning and tidying up and MORE time DOING LIFE with my family and friends.


Joshua Becker, author of the book The More of Less, has the best definition of minimalism: “Minimalism is the intentional promotion of the things we most value and the removal of anything that distracts us from them.” According to Joshua, minimalism isn’t about getting rid of stuff and doing without; it’s about focusing on the right stuff.

Marie Kondo teaches that it’s about focusing on what sparks joy in your heart.

To me, minimalism is living with less and living with things I LOVE.

To me, minimalism is ridding your home and life of extras that weigh you down. It’s not a competition to see who can get rid of the most stuff. It’s about finding what brings you joy. It’s about happiness and simplicity.

I wanted, no, I needed, more style with less stuff, and along the way I realized less stuff gave way to more life. MyQuillyn Smith 'Cozy Minimalist Home'

And so, 8 months ago my journey began…

Next week, I’m going to share HOW I got started, where I began, and kind of where we’re at now in our journey.

Are you thinking about minimalizing? What’s your why?

1 Comment

  1. January 8, 2019 / 1:58 am

    I am all about minimalism. I just don’t want to keep things that aren’t being used. I clean out about every three months. It is a very freeing feeling, and I don’t buy things like home decor unless I just absolutely love the item! We cleaned out the other night when we took down our Christmas decorations!

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